How little anyone's opinon really matters

[Morella]

Actually, the only reason I ever tell people that I'm feeling badly is that sometimes the people on these boards care for each other, and, especially when you're suddenly living alone, it's good to hear anyone reply almost anything.

Amazing how little of the discourse from my last thread has mattered. I went back to the doctor that I had to see, and he didn't *think* there was anything wrong except for this little spot on the X-ray which might have been supposed to have connected to a bone, but maybe the radiologist would know. That spot is right where the pain is.

We went back to his office and I showed him the short-term disability paper, and he said, "Do you have any kind of second income? If I send you back to work in just a day or two, are you gonna starve?" A day or two? I could barely walk, hanging on the walls. Second income? He was looking right at it!

Well, here's the part where nothing matters. I talked to the lady at HR and she said that everyone had noticed my pain and knew I was on pain medicine, and they didn't think that I should be working at all. She asked why I didn't just fax the disabililty paperwork to my doctor and request that he look over it a month at a time and see if I could ever work again. After nine years, I would much prefer to go out with disability than to get fired for sending senseless emails, wrecking my car, saying the wrong thing to somebody, or just ending up being unable to concentrate on doing anything.

How well this will all go, I don't know, but I'm getting the insurance that I paid the premiums on, for the reason that the policy was taken out, so I don't feel bad about it. My job can't be sent to India because the R&D machines are here, but that's their business anyway. Since it is a British company, all of the work that we do in the US is "outsourced" anyway.

I just had to mention that. :happy4:

[LMS]

I don't mind when you come on here and vent. If I am not in the mood for it I just don't read the post, but I usually do read them.
See I am not always an ass-hole, just most of the time.

And just for the record I am NOT tip toeing around Morella or kissing her ass.

[Morella]

That's too bad. I could use a little good ass-kissing. I like it down the right side, down the left side, and then right up the middle. :happy4:

I'm kind of the same way. Some stuff I let go by, especially when I don't know if I can do more harm than good, or if I'm short on time.

The one thing I would not do, though, would be to rag on someone who is feeling hopeless. I lost three friends to suicide one year. In fact, believe it or not, if someone is feeling reeeeeeeely hopeless, the best thing I've found to do is say something very brief just to know that I'm listening, and discusss something only if they bring it up. I would suggest taking it to a private chat only if I were absolutely sure that they didn't want anyone else to hear.

One thing that I cringe when I hear is, "Aww, people who say they're going to kill themselves never do it. They just want attention." Maybe some of them....but two out of the three friends that I lost to suicide that awful year said (that I know of) that they were going to do it, and one of them spent hours on the phone with the police before he did it.

when someone is upset about something, I try to stick to what I am sure of, and what will hopefully help. The biggest mistake I make is kidding around, assuming that someone can handle a little good-natured mindfuck when they're not in the mood for it.

-denise

[StrayCat]

i want pictures of the ass kissing. mmmmhmmmm....thats good internet material!

[BIGEVIL]

When a large group of nerves are pinched or have pressure applied to them, it can cause a chemical depression. You really need to see a specialist. Pain pills are like putting a bandaid over a bullet hole. Fix the cause.

[Morella]

I would actually go for that, if I could find a neurosurgeon or neurologist who could find the problem, but I've been to everyone one in the book in Tucson, including one neurosurgeon who was voted one of the best five in the US, and they just can't do anything. I have a scoliosis to begin with, and then every joint above T2 is full of stenosis. It's like a transmission that has overheated and shelled out all of the bearings...only it can't be rebuilt because the parts aren't available. There is some progress being made on synthetic disks, but it would cost millions of dollars to fix all of my damage that way, and then there is still a twisted-up shoulder.