Wife Beating in Shoreham, might need help

[Custom Coffin Works]

Any one in Shoreham, NY? I have a friend whose husband dragged her out there from Arizona. Typical situation where as she has no friends over there. He has a family run deli and has family there. She got into a argument with the husband and it turned into him hitting her and her 10 month old daughter. This guy is a lowlife fuck! I'm trying to have her just fly bqack to AZ, but she has a car and wants to just drive back. Sucks having a issue like this and it's across the country.

[Morella]

I'm in AZ, feeling the urge to make a trip on the freeway, or a nice long ride in my plane, if there is anything I could do. Nobody should have to live in that situation. Is her car roadworthy?

People get killed in domestic violence situations. I would say that if she has to leave the car to get out of there, there are always more cars.

-denise

[Morella]

Let me be perfectly candid with you. If a woman is afraid for the safety of her baby, the last thing that is on her mind is a car. This is just my educated guess, but I do not believe that she is ready to leave him.

Miles don't mean anything to me. I could leave right now, go to NY, and bring her and her child back, and I would enjoy having an assignment again, but here's the problem. First of all, she probably does not want to go. If I stand between her and her better half, chances are the both of them are going to contact the authorities, and I will go to jail. This is the biggest problem with a DV rescue operation.

If the facts indicate that a rescue is appropriate, I am telling you that I can do it, and I will do it for free, but from what I've seen so far, that just doesn't appear to be what we're dealing with.

[Hearse_Guy]

if i could get there that wife beating son of a bitch would be dead i hate wife beaters

[Custom Coffin Works]

So today she calls and said that he apologized to her and didn't want her to leave. He swore up and down he would never do that again.
So she believed him and is staying. I guess you can't fix stupid. I offered to fly out Tuesday and drive her and her child back to her family here in AZ, but she declined. She did say they were flying back out here in March to visit, so that will be her last chance to stay. I'm looking forward to meeting him again. Sorry son of a bitch.

[Hearse_Guy]

kill that son of a bitch

[pyro]

Once a wife beater, always a wife beater.


Hey CCW, hows the ladies for the 2010 calander coming along?

[Morella]

Yes, he will apologize, in between beatings, until somebody, perhaps the kid, gets killed. It's sad, and anyone who tries to get in the middle of it usually becomes another victim.

[Custom Coffin Works]

Hey CCW, hows the ladies for the 2010 calander coming along?

Every time I sit down to put one together, I get side tracked. I have a copy drafted up. Working on it.

[Hearse_Guy]

Every time I sit down to put one together, I get side tracked. I have a copy drafted up. Working on it.

how would i go about getting one of these calenders??

[Psychoholic]

I have zero patience for shit like this.

But there are 2 parts to this - if she is able to call you, then he isn't holding her hostage, and she could call the cops - press charges and get her ass back to AZ.

I had to rescue my sister in law once from an abusive relationship - It took every fiber of my being not to beat the fuck out of him, but we were there to get her stuff and get her out the door without further incident and we did. She now has a husband who treats her much better and a baby with him.

Men who hit women deserve what ends up happening to them. Women who stay in those situations also should shoulder some of the blame - scared, helpless or whatnot, at this point there has been enough PSA's over the lost 20 years to know what you can and can't do in a situation like that and if she has had a free 'get out of hell' card and didn't act on it, the next time this happens (and it will), he'll know he can get away with it and probably push it further.

[Custom Coffin Works]

I completely agree. Being "Capt. Save=a=ho" as my friends call me, I see this a lot. There those women out there that even when all options are put in front of them, they still return. These women alway return. They seek out that kind of relationship. I just don't get it.

[Hearse_Guy]

i think wife beaters should be hanged

[EvilManor]

I think for some of them its become a way of life. It becomes what is normal to them.

I've seen women who have managed to move on (usually because the guy ends up in jail for something) and then be confused by lack of abuse in future relationships. It's like they feel that he doesn't care if he doesn't treat them like a dog and smack them around. It's a sad thing to see, but some seem to need the drama/abuse in their life to feel loved.

[Morella]

I wouldn't have a problem with that, and I understand it, but she has no right to allow him to hit the baby. That's out of bounds.